Maybe It Really Is!!???

Now the final part of Dawn's saga as I know it and my reasons for writing about it.

He calls and Dawn goes running, eager to try and resolve their differences and so at 2am she leaves her mother's home once more to move back in with him. They have apparently been able to get over the fact that he had literally kicked her out. She moves back in and here it comes... his next demand it's your JOB or Me!!! You need to quit...because apparently he will be getting a job soon, even though after more than a year he hasn't seemed bothered to ... WTF....

I pondered writing about this until the last straw, it was too unbelievable not to write about, too strange for me to imagine a woman in this modern times putting up with all of this bull. So I chose to share.. to hopefully enlighten others out there who may be faced with a similar situation but never took stock to analyze it.. who may be holding on to something that doesn't exist or at the very least a love that is unrequited.

My conclusion, the only plausible argument I can give to myself to excuse Dawn's actions, it's her first boyfriend... and the first cut really is the deepest. I'm not sure how many of you remember your first.. but it always seems to be the one you can't quite let go of too easily...for me it was anyways it was harder to pick up and move forward, harder to accept that your ideals on life aren't as black and white as they appear. That's when the realization sinks in that those romance books you've read are called fiction for a reason. Life is built on experiences and sometimes we've got to open our eyes and realize that we have had an experience and to let it go, to end it and to learn from it...

I have always been pragmatic in my approach to many things in life, making decisions for me and not because others think I should. I only hope and pray that Dawn will wake up and realize that there is greater and better in life... that because one relationship fails all wouldn't... to wake up and realize that being alone is just as great as being in a relationship and finally to learn to love herself and to know herself.

It's really a sobering story and as unbelievable as it sounds it is someones truth, someone's life. Having discussed this story in depth with my mother bless her soul, she rejoices because according to her even though she wasn't a strong person in her youth she is safe in the knowledge that at least her daughter has some sort of inner strength and character.

Or is it?

Continuing with the story of Dawn, having acquired a dog they could ill afford and feed, it was inevitable that the dog will become ill and that they would be unable to afford its medication thus poor doggy had a short life span and Dawn unlike the smart person that she appeared to be growing up was out with her boyfriend looking for another dog.

Somehow common sense took over or maybe it was the lack of finance and luckily they did not acquire another dog. Continues there seeming bliss, with Dawn paying the bills and even though they were sharing a house with other friends/ relatives of her boyfriend, the rent which was meant to be split 3 ways was totally paid for on quite a few occasions by Dawn, who with a few promises of having her money returned have yet to smell a scent of or even glimpse her money back.

Then it happened coming home from work one day, she is greeted by her bags packed nicely for her and a request for her to leave as she is no longer needed as apparently he has now figured out how to use the washing machine.

Writing this I am still awed that someone can put up with all of this and still be seemingly oblivious to the fact that love is not meant to be like this...

Where would you be, would you have been there for months paying the bills whilst he's unemployed and seemingly without any aims of finding employment? Would you be content at being taken for a ride by his friends/ family?

I definitely wouldn't be... I can't say for sure that I wont ever be in such a situation as no one knows what the future holds, however I do believe I'm too much of a strong character to be strung along, too focused on achieving things in my life to be held down. And I've definitely found someone who has my best interest at heart.

The First Cut is the Deepest

I haven't posted in a while but I've been inspired to do so by some unbelievable stories I've been hearing as of late... and I'm wondering if any of my blogger friends would fall prey to a similar situation. I hope not! I certainly can't see me being in this position.

I will lay the plot..

Dawn is young, pretty and smart. She's 18 and has met a guy who she falls head over heels for, before long she has moved out of her parental home to live with her boyfriend. As mentioned previously she is smart, has found herself a well paying job for someone her age, earning as much as £22000 per year. Her boyfriend, he's jobless, a pampered child, spoiled further by the lady in his life, who pays the bills, including the rent and gets him everything he asks for. Including a dog they can ill afford to keep and maintain.

I ask you so far... Ladies would you be wise enough to see yourself through this situation?

To Be continued...